Create a better environment at home

Have you ever noticed that it seems no matter how well planned your day is, there is always a child saying, “Mom!” Or the phone is ringing with your husband telling you he is bringing home a client for dinner! What none of these love ones ever seem to realize is that you have things you need to get done too.

Well there are many ways to change the environment of, “everyone needs mom.” The first step is to decide what kind of environment you want for your home. The first person to address is with the man in your life. You could sit down and talk to him explaining your needs, but let’s face it; will he really listen or understand?

The place to start is by looking at all the things that he needs from you. Decide what you have to do, and most importantly what he can do for himself. What has usually happened over time is that you just found it easier to do things yourself, but now there is just too much. You may have to except that he doesn’t do things the way you like, or even as good as you, but you said you wanted to change the environment didn’t you?

Next as you slowly give the man in your life a little more responsibility, very nicely teach him how you would prefer things be done. The secret here is not to be short or angry when you do this, the key to remember is that you want him to help you out; no one wants to help when they are yelled at or told they do not help. So approach this in a very nice way and before you know it the help you so desperately wanted will be available.

Next are the kids, now if they are very young, there may not be much you can do at first, but if they are at least five, then you can start teaching them to take care of themselves. Teaching children to do chores is usually a lot of work, but in the long run the more you teach them when they are young, the easier it will be later.

Now for the hardest part, if you really want to change the environment of your home, you need to do some soul searching. If your house seems loud, with a lot of noise, are you loud? If so you will need to begin to be quieter. You will be amazed at how one person being more reserved can change the noise level of a home.

If you would like more conversation, ask yourself how much you try to start these conversations. The key to remember is that you may need to re-examine what you are doing, before you can just blame everyone else.

Taking the task of changing the environment of your home can be done, but it may need to begin with you, and you may need to begin to think of yourself as a teacher, teaching your family the way you want things done, this can sometimes be much harder than just doing it yourself. This is probably how you ended up in this situation in the first place.

Have no fear that nice balanced life where you home hums with the sound of people all taking care of themselves is only a short period of time away.